How do I deal with my naughty child?

"My child uses Zen as a way to get what he wants, and I don't know what to do?" a friend began her conversation and continued, "This Zen makes me embarrassed, and I often lose my temper under the pressure and influence of Zen." Another friend then chimed in and shared her experience.

First, you must know the reasons that push a child to follow the Zen method:

- His inability to express himself properly, which may be a result of the excessive control imposed on the child by the mother, causing him to lose his personality.

-The child feels insecure and needs to spend more time with you.

- The child is not in his best state, such as needing to sleep, feeling hungry, or feeling bored.

The young boy is certain from his previous experiences that nagging and insistence is the only way to get what he wants.

Now comes the most important question: How do I deal with this behavior?

1- Be firm in your reaction: Do not weaken or retreat if you refuse to comply with his request, and do not think about the reactions of the people in the place. Be sure that any action you take to calm the little one down will increase the tantrum. Just tell him that you cannot hear him while he is crying and screaming and that you are ready to listen to him whenever he wants.

2- Set rules: Rules are always a safety shield to avoid clashes with the little one. Before going out shopping, agree with him to buy a specific number of sweets or juice and remind him of the agreement during the shopping.

3- Spend enough time with him playing, talking, and discussing things without imposing any control or performing normal daily tasks. Try to constantly talk to him about the importance of asking for things politely and calmly.

4- Praise his behavior when he asks politely and encourage him in front of others.

5- Keep your promises: If you agree with him to do something, you must do it and tell him that you have kept your promise, so that you can be a role model for him and gain the confidence that will make him not resort to excessive insistence.