Phrases not to say to your child

You may not realize the impact of the daily dialogue that takes place between you and your little one, and how some phrases turn into a method that he believes and is completely convinced by. But what if some of these phrases are negative? Your little one will continue to hold on to them and believe them about himself, and will even say the same phrases to himself. To avoid this conflict, learn about common phrases that we may not realize the extent of their negative impact on your little one:

1- Leave me alone : ​​You may be in a moment of anger or your real need for rest, but this phrase will be understood by: Mom doesn’t want to spend time with me. You can express the intended meaning by saying : “My love, I am sitting with you and next to you. You can play and rest a little.”

2- Stop crying : This is a word that ignites tantrums and screaming and never solves the problem. On the contrary, it increases its intensity and suppresses his feelings because crying is a form of venting and expression, and asking him to stop crying is illogical to him. With me, you can express the intended meaning by saying : “I understand how sad and angry you are, but I can’t hear you crying.” Then hug him.

3- "You are not like your brother or sister." Comparison is considered one of the most difficult parenting methods that leaves a negative impact on the child's psyche, shakes his self-confidence, and keeps him always comparing himself with others without paying attention to his skills or talents. The intended meaning can be expressed by saying : Just do not compare him to anyone and praise his positive behaviors without comparison.

4- “I don’t have time” is something that is very expected for every mother who has a lot of daily tasks, but what your little one understands is: “Mom doesn’t have time for me.” Therefore, he feels that his presence is marginal and a sense of neglect and indifference develops within him. The intended meaning can be expressed by saying: “My dear, our time is limited and we have to get the task done so that the fun can begin. Are you ready?”

5- "I will tell your father and he will act." By saying this, you have given yourself the weaker image, not in control of the situation. You have also planted in your little one a fear of his father, which will eventually be associated with punishment. You can express the intended meaning by saying: " Let's finish eating so that it will be a surprise for Dad when he arrives." Follow the encouragement instead of the intimidation.